A week before Sweet Pea’s third birthday, my grandmother, her great-grandmother, passed away. And instead of the typical birthday letter where I outline all of the incredible things she’s done throughout the year, I chose to tell her all about my best girl, Grandma Frank.

From public meltdowns to saying “no” like it’s their full-time job, toddlers are gonna toddler. And honestly? I’m not sorry about it. Here are 10 toddler behaviors I refuse to apologize for.

My Sweet Pea has grown by leaps and bounds since she’s been on this Earth. But who knew that over the past ten months I, too, would grow just as much.